Life After Loss: Embracing Signs from Transitioned Loved Ones

This really is a message for all of us, but particularly for parents experiencing the gripping pain of grief after the loss of a child. I don’t know first-hand what it’s like to lose a child. That was one of my biggest fears while raising my son, who is now 34 years old. I have experienced the loss of several close loved ones; my mother in 1979, when I was just 16, my dad and sister in 2015, three friends in early 2020 and then my beloved husband, David, in December of that year. I have connected with them through dreams, visions and sometimes audibly and have had several mediumship readings to validate the information I was getting. David was the most persistent in giving messages, and quite clever at getting my attention. Knowing that he was still around me was a comfort, but it was still very hard at times, realizing I had to live life without him physically with me. David was my better half, my best friend, someone who had my back. He made me feel safe and loved. He still does. I’m incredibly grateful for the love and effort he put in to let me know he is still around, stories that I’ll share in another post (G48: The Divine Interrupt…future post). That love has no boundaries, for any of us. This is no different for the bond a transitioned child has with his/her parents.

It’s hard for some of us to believe that our loved ones are still around. I wasn’t raised in a church environment, and that afforded me more space to question about God, life, and the nature of reality. The dreams and signs from my mother and others in spirit were key to showing me that life continues after we leave this world. You may have gotten signs from your loved ones; a bird, a butterfly, a song, a message, at just the right moment. Did you embrace it, or dismissed it? Don’t concern yourself with what others think. We were taught not to believe in the “supernatural” or mystical. But what we think of as supernatural is actually very natural. We have to look at our own fundamental beliefs and call into question anything that gives us a sense that God is anything but big, and pure unconditional love; love for all of us. If you struggle to accept that we go on after physical death, here’s an award winning documentary that will open your mind, Life With Ghosts.

We are eternal beings, connected to that unconditional love, we are that unconditional love. This is the “image of God” that the bible refers to. We are light and energy experiencing physical form. Our light and energy being never dies, it is eternal, and always connected with the Divine. We have a big family that we will return to when we make our own transition. Death should never be a thing to fear, it is simply walking through a door and going home.

God does not punish anybody for anything. Judgement is a process we go through during a life review after transitioning in which we feel how we affected others, when we did good deeds and when we could have behaved differently. We experience our own feelings along with the other person’s. We see clearly how our actions affected others. These life reviews are in the company of a loving being who does not judge us. They are there to support us. Even if your child transitioned from suicide, there is no punishment, and no suffering there. When we leave the planet, no matter how we exit, we go to a beautiful place. We are home. We are all on our own life path, even our young children. There is a purpose to your child’s life, just like there is for you. I don’t know what that is, but I can’t help but wonder if all of our lives aren’t simply to make the world a more beautiful place in our own way, to bring our own love to the planet. Did your child or loved one bring that beauty to you? Was your heart opened in ways that it wasn’t before they passed? I know mine was.

We’ll all get the answers we seek if we take time to just be present, in the moment. Go where your heart leads you in your imagination and in your knowing. The answers will come in either physical form, or whispers in your consciousness. Trust what comes. It helps to be connected to others that are willing to listen, or that you can inspire with stories about your beautiful child. We help each other by listening and sharing.

What are the chances that your child is trying to connect with you? It will help you to journal your experiences and memories. Even if it seems silly, it will make sense later. There are many stories and references to be found in an online search, like Communication After Death – My Signs from Cameron or the book Hello From Heaven. The Near Death Experience of Jeff Olson is a heart-wrenching and incredible story of a man who lost his wife and baby in a car crash in which he and his toddler son had survived. During his visits on the other side, Jeff encounters both his wife and baby, and is shown that God’s love is bigger than we imagine.

Suzanne Giesemann: Messages of Hope Suzanne was a commander in the US Navy, and Secretary to the Chairman of the Joint Chiefs of Staff. She and her husband, Ty, a Captain in the Navy, had both retired and sailed across the Atlantic when they got an urgent email message from Ty’s daughter, Elizabeth, to call. After a long sail to finally locate a phone, Ty was informed that his pregnant daughter, Susan, had been struck and killed by lightning. Suzanne and Ty share their journey, and Suzanne’s determination to find Susan led her to her life’s work of connecting to Susan, and others on the other side.

Studies on Near Death Experiences in Children and adults give us insights that we would not otherwise have about our loved ones across the veil. Closer To The Light is one book on NDEs in children that is based on years of research by Dr. Melvin Morse. Dr. Bruce Greyson and Dr. Raymond Moody began their consciousness research at The University of Virginia decades ago, and the Near Death Experience Research Foundation has over 5000 documented cases of NDEs. The Near Death Experiences of Children is an article that gives accounts of young children who had Near Death Experiences and encountered the other side. Though these children did return to their lives, experiences like these give us a glimpse of what it is like across the veil. Many more accounts can be located at IANDS, International Association for Near Death Studies. The vast amount of evidence that our consciousness continues after death is undeniable. Hearing the NDE stories will remove any doubt that your child has the ability to connect with you. They want to reach out, to let you know they are okay, but it’s up to you to be open to receive their messages.

Helping Parents Heal is an organization that was created to support bereaved parents. It has an abundance of videos, movies, books, and a list of available listeners to help grieving parents, if you just need someone to talk to. They too are parents who have experienced the loss, and also reconnection, of their deceased children who passed from suicide, drug overdose, cancer, violent acts, accident, etc.

Be open to the new normal. Your child is good…safe, loved, and home. Allow your feelings of grief to come and then pass through you. If you need to cry, cry. Let the poignant moments come, and embrace them. It might not only be sadness, but also an incredible love that you’re feeling. Whatever it is, allow it. And also allow yourself to have a new life experience with your child existing in his/her new state of being. Nobody is left behind. We will all go home eventually and be reunited with all of our loved ones. Your child does not want you to suffer from their transition so let go of any guilt that you weren’t a good enough parent, or you could have prevented their passing. Everything happens for a reason, all is how it is supposed to be. Find your strength, share your story, live as full and happy of a life as you can. This is what your child would want for you. We have to go on living while we’re here. Shine your light and make your life beautiful!

Do you want help connecting with your child or loved one? Chuck Bergman is a psychic medium that I have gone to for years. I recommend him because of my many accurate readings and validating experiences with him. I appreciate Chuck because of his integrity and openness. There are many good mediums out there. If you want help making a connection with your child or other loved one, reach out to a medium that comes highly recommended. You can contact Chuck on his website, ChuckBergman.com. There is no time on the other side like we have here. It’s never too soon or too late to talk with them. We don’t all grieve in the same way, or in the same timeframe. Connect if and when you’re ready to do. If fear is stopping you, I can tell you from my own experience that this process has always been very healing and comforting for me. Of course, do what’s best for you.

Losing David not only took away any fear of death, but also taught me how to live. My life is forever changed. I don’t feel alone as long a my heart and mind are open to hearing my husband talking, singing, and laughing with me. I hope this information helps and brings some comfort for you. Love is the key!